If one of you masters something special, receives a promotion at work, or achieves some great feat, there could be a small spark of jealousy on the other persons side. When your mate has done something that requires you to forgive, you have to forgive, REALLY forgive. For example, if your mate wants to get intimate and you are not in the mood, do not say, I need to help the kids with their homework, or if something that needed to be done was not taken care of because you forgot, do not blame it on the kids by saying, I was taking care of the kids and did not have time.
Make sure your compliments are genuine and based on something you see or hear your mate do.
There are going to be differences in opinion, and probably some disagreements. Be creative and have some fun with this. Just because the flame has become a mild flicker, that does not mean you have lost the love for each other, it just means you need to add a little fuel to the fire. Host a Halloween Party Instead of just passing out candy for Halloween, organize a masquerade party together where everyone is required to come dressed up. Also, do not assume that your mate knows how you feel or what you think about something.
When asked where you are going, simply answer, I have a surprise for you.