In the bedroom, have another note next to an overnight bag telling them to meet you at a specific hotel restaurant where you know the ambience is cozy and romantic. What happens is when you move to another person, things are fresh, new, and exciting just as they were in the beginning of your current relationship. Hire a babysitter for about four hours and give your mate a gift certificate to a local spa where they can enjoy a relaxing massage, mineral springs, sauna, mud wrap, or whatever special treatments are available. When something goes wrong and the two of you work through it, do not repeat the same mistake. Bringing spirituality into your relationship is important. However, after spoken, it is too late to take them back the damage is done.
In the first scenario, be honest with your mate and tell them that you are very tired and while intimacy is important, you would prefer to make sure the kids are in bed on time so the two of you can have some quality time together.
Fighting No-No While having disagreements is normal and sometimes when controlled, healthy for relationships, the place and degree of discussion are important. This is true devotion to your mate and demonstration that you do not take them for granted. For no reason whatsoever, make a special effort to get that for him. Find something that is important for your mate and not necessarily to you. People change as they mature and view life differently, therefore reacting differently.
Rather than get upset with each other over change, embrace change.