It will not be easy, but you can do it with the right help, attitude, and commitment. Do not be surprised if you get a strange look of curiosity the first time! By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.
If you have nothing special planned on a Friday night, rent a few games, order in Chinese, plug in the Play Station, and play games.
Do not take every comment, glance, or movement as a serious problem. As an example, if your mate has had an affair and the two of you choose to work it out rather than throw the relationship away, once the problems are resolved and the forgiveness is said, it is done! Whenever the two of you feel as though you are drifting apart or taking one another for granted, pull out the photo album as a reminder of the incredible person in your life. It might be just surfing, playing games, or getting involved with websites that promote pornography. As the two of you identify new topics that could cause a debate session, stop the conversation before it even gets started.
Once the plan is in place, no backing out unless you have some life and death emergency.