Turn the Computer Off Often the computer becomes a replacement for a lack of something in the relationship. Rent his favorite movie, even if it is something you do not like, and plan an evening alone where you can be with him as he enjoys his special treat. Take Pride in Yourself Every relationship goes through down time. Bring out the snacks, beverages, and just have some fun.
You give because you appreciate and love, not because you want something back.
If your wife or girlfriend has been working at the computer all day, walk up behind her and massage her shoulders and neck. If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it. If family members try to get in the middle of fights or debates, that is definite trouble.
If you need to go to another room to cool off, and then do that, but whatever you do, do not allow your anger to take control of your relationship.