If the two of you like the fine arts, audition for roles in a local community theater. Do not walk into a relationship with your arms loaded with that baggage. Favorite Meal If your mate has a meal, that is by far the favorite above everything else, go all out and prepare everything to order. Your relationship is far more than the stock market but requires some of the same strategies.
Are there definite things missing or definite problem areas that need to be worked on?
You can be assured that throughout the day, that change in routine, is what will be on your mates mind. Do not allow your relationship to grow old and stale. Often people become very comfortable in their relationship and sitting around on the weekends, watching movies is about as exciting as it gets. In the first scenario, be honest with your mate and tell them that you are very tired and while intimacy is important, you would prefer to make sure the kids are in bed on time so the two of you can have some quality time together.
Keeping intimacy alive is healthy and not a bad thing whatsoever!