There will be times when your mate is right and times when you are right. You will find that as you pay attention to your kissing and let your mate know that you enjoy kissing them, you will both feel better about your relationship. Take lessons together so you can then go out on the town and dance the night away.
You will both feel good about yourselves and spending this magical evening together.
If you try this and then drill them, to see what they did, whom they were with, and where they went, then the exercise has failed. You are miserable and eventually, the person is going to be exposed to the real you. First, it is the past. Be Creative The words, I love you, are always welcomed but why not add some creativity to the way you tell your mate you love them.
People change as they mature and view life differently, therefore reacting differently.