Make your intimate time together special. Just like the clich, If you do not have something nice to say, then do not say anything at all. Say you had promised to make dinner, got home exhausted, and just did not feel like making it, do not tell your mate, I had to work overtime. You will find that as you pay attention to your kissing and let your mate know that you enjoy kissing them, you will both feel better about your relationship. It is the same for marriage.
This will require that both individuals let down their guard and pretty much throw caution to the wind.
Have a few friends provide help you plan this and then go all out. If you normally hate the fact that Saturday afternoons consist of your mate sitting for hours watching football, fix some finger sandwiches and something cool to drink and go join them on the couch, or if your mate spends hours in the garden trying to make things look perfect, surprise them with a new flowering plant, and then help to plant it. You will truly be amazed at what this can do for your relationship. Surprise your mate with a warm bubble bath, lighted candles, soft music, and a bottle of wine, or reserve a nice romantic evening at a local hotel to include a wonderful candlelit dinner, fine wine, and a beautiful room.
20.