When you make him pancakes, first pour the words, I Love You on the griddle and cook for a minute to brown. Every once in awhile, pull the box out and look at the items with your mate. Find something that is important for your mate and not necessarily to you.
If you notice that your mate is spending more and more time on the computer, take this as a sign that even if not doing anything wrong, they are choosing to spend the time with the computer instead of you.
Scout out the area ahead of time and choose a few things that the two of you would like to do in the area but just be sure to leave plenty of time for you to enjoy some alone time. Even making a special, personalized greeting card would be appreciated and show your mate that you care enough to take the time needed to make something by hand. This refers to Do unto others Simple acts of kindness can have huge impacts on a relationship.
Try establishing a set time for this very purpose, if possible.